Ever heard that masturbating could make you move blind? Yeah, us too (Image: Getty)
There are thousands of males around the globe maintaining their masturbation secret, whether or not that’s thru disgrace, worry, or old-school politeness.
Whilst we wouldn’t suggest beginning up conversations about masturbation with strangers, it’s essential as a way to be open with companions or pals.
At the start, as a result of honesty round intercourse is helping wreck the stigma that surrounds it. And secondly, as a result of by way of casually discussing what you experience, you’ll really feel extra assured within the bed room going ahead.
There’s most likely a component of now not in need of to be thought to be ‘bizarre’ that places males off speaking about masturbating. What for those who’ve come what may been doing it fallacious these kinds of years? Do you masturbate greater than your friends? No person desires to be the outlier.
The myriad misconceptions and taboos hooked up to masturbation don’t lend a hand both.
In step with a world survey by way of intercourse toy logo Arcwave, 47% of guys by no means speak about masturbation. That’s just about part lacking out at the studying and laughs that may come from it.
So as to assist you to really feel extra relaxed chatting about this incessantly hush-hush subject, we’ve compiled the highest questions that you simply’ve all the time sought after to understand the solutions to – and responded them.
Are you able to move blind from masturbating?
This is among the maximum not unusual previous other halves’ stories round, handed down thru generations of youngster boys and making them too terrified to confess they masturbate.
There’s a degree of stigma hooked up to masturbation, which prevents other folks speaking about it (Image: Getty Pictures/iStockphoto)
Fortunately, it’s not more than an city legend, and one who tens of millions of self-pleasuring people with unaffected imaginative and prescient have confirmed fallacious.
There used to be a case in 2014 whereby a man’s retina haemorrhaged after ‘vigorous’ sexual activity, however such injuries aren’t limited to sex and can be caused by anything that creates ‘excessive force’ on the eye.
Go easy on yourself to avoid any accidents, and point away from your eyes when you’re due to orgasm – a stray splatter won’t affect your long-term vision, but who wants to clean semen out of their eyes?!
Can you get addicted to masturbating?
While there’s no hard and fast rule saying how often men should masturbate, like anything enjoyable it can become addictive.
If masturbation is taking up a large amount of your time, affecting your work or relationships, or you find you’re more interested in solo sex than with a partner, you may be experiencing addiction.
Visit the Relate website for more information and signposting towards support.
Is there a ‘wrong’ way to masturbate?
Perhaps you like to wear a certain thing to get you in the mood for some alone time. Perhaps you prefer to use toys than your hand. Perhaps you enjoy a well-timed finger up the bum.
As they say, it’s different strokes for different folks, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel pleasure.
As long as you’re staying safe (not engaging in risky behaviours like autoerotic asphyxiation, for example) and ensuring others who may be involved (such as adult film actors or sexting partners) are consenting, you have nothing to worry about.
Anything that gives a feeling of pleasure, including sex and masturbation, can be addivtive (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)
Will I lose sensitivity in my penis if I regularly masturbate?
This one is technically true. But don’t worry, your penis won’t turn completely numb and drop off every time you give yourself a hand.
They continue: ‘Hyperstimulation can reduce the sensitivity of the penis and cause a person to increase the force that they use during masturbation, which can make the issue worse.’
Over time, this can lead to an inability to orgasm (anorgasmia) during sex, as you become acclimated to the level of pressure you’ve built up to.
Switch up the sensation with sex toys, lube, or a looser grip and reduce the frequency of your masturbation. This should bring back your sensation.
Is it okay to use porn while I masturbate?
Feelings about pornography differ between person to person, affected by religious and cultural norms as well as personal preferences.
If you have a moral aversion to porn but continue to use it, this may lead to feelings of guilt or promote secretive habits (further impacting your view of masturbation as dirty or wrong).
Is it the fact you’re watching porn or the TYPE of porn you’re watching that’s a problem? (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)
There’s nothing inherently wrong with pornography, but if you’re struggling with your contribution to misogynist practices you should seek out ethically produced content where creators are fairly treated and paid.
It also should be kept at the forefront of your mind that porn isn’t real. Don’t bring an unrealistic set of expectations into your sexual relationships, and remember to prioritise mutual pleasure rather than acts that look good on camera.
If you find that you can’t become aroused or orgasm unless you’re looking at porn, this may be a sign of addiction.
Is it okay to not want to masturbate?
Men are often stereotyped as being sex-mad, but this is a lazy generalisation.
In reality, men have the same broad spectrum of desires and fears around sexuality, and there’s no such thing as ‘normal’.
Not wanting to masturbate may be a temporary thing or more long term. Issues around shame or previous trauma may be present, in which case it’s a good idea to seek help from a therapist or counsellor.
Aside from this, you may just prefer partnered sex to solo play, be busy with other things, or be on the spectrum of asexuality. Trust your desire and try to avoid doing anything merely because you think you should.
Can I catch an STI through masturbation?
If you don’t have a sexually transmitted infection, it’s impossible to contract one when having sex with only yourself.
However, some STIs are transmittable through skin-to-skin contact, so if you’re participating in mutual masturbation with someone else you could potentially be exposed to oral and genital herpes, HPV, and syphilis.
In rare cases, you can contract chlamydial conjunctivitis or gonococcal conjunctivitis through hand to eye contact. Effectively, if you’ve touched the bacteria and then touch your eye, you can be exposed to chlamydia and gonorrhoea.
To avoid any mishaps, wash your hands after masturbating – or just go it alone – and get regular check-ups at your local GUM clinic.
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